It is easy to see how quickly expectations become layered, competitive and conflicting. This is how the shame web works. We have very few realistic options that allow us to meet any of these expectations. Most of the options that we do have feel like a "double bind." When Marilyn Frye describes a double bind as "a situation in which options are very limited and all of them expose us to penalty, censure or deprivation. .Anonymous
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The more people around you, the more expectations you will be faced with. You will have a difficult time meeting all of these expectations and you will end up feeling guilty. When this happens, you might feel that you aren't good enough for anyone because you can't meet their expectations. The best way to avoid this is to accept that you are going to face a lot of conflicting expectations and make sure that you choose your relationships wisely.
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